This lesson is a week late, though hopefully it will be timely for you as they sometimes are for me.  I was sick this past week and had several things going along with going out of town for a few days and while WiFi was free it was a bit useless and made coming into Second Life too much of a hassle to entertain for very long.

Plus I’ve been in one of those moods where I get to contemplating those things that happen in life that never seem to have an answer.   It makes me feel a bit tangled up (hence the picture).   It is those times that I often feel the need to withdraw and just be alone to ponder the why and what of those feelings.

Sometimes I come away with answers and at other times I don’t have any and know that eventually things get sorted out — either in my own head or in some tangible way.

When I read this lesson earlier in the week I thought of a couple situations where this may apply.  It’s easy to fall prey to blaming others for whatever is happening in our life or how we feel, especially any negative feelings.  I could readily see where I have allowed myself to get riled up emotionally over things and perhaps that alone loaned itself to the situation getting worse before getting better.   It certainly gives me something to work on for the next time.

“The greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances.” – Martha Washington 

© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford

Lesson 29: Give Up the Blame Game

Maybe you’ve heard of this popular pastime? The object o the game is to look for any person, place, or thing to make responsible for what’s going on in our lives. Unfortunately, it’s a game where nobody wins – there’s no finish line and no reward at the end. The only consolation prize is the powerlessness we feel as we struggle to find someone who’s the cause of our discomfort and discontent.

As long as we blame others for any circumstance in our lives, we diminish our power to make the changes we’re craving. Blaming sets us up for victim consciousness, which has become the disease of our time. And self-responsibility is the only remedy once you’ve been infected.

Your Self-Love Assignment

This week, take an honest look at where in your life you may be blaming others for your circumstances. Whom are you holding responsible for the way things are?

Next, allow yourself to see what you could create if you became 100 percent responsible for 100 percent of what shows up in your life.

Finally, take two actions this week that demonstrate that you’re responsible for the outcomes you create.

Self-Love Points Earned

Give yourself 50 points every time you catch yourself playing the Blame Game, and make the powerful choice to stop.

Credits:

Hair – D!va – Hair “Giz” (Type B) (Black Amber) from September Arcade {modified color}
Sweater – Color.Me.H.O.F. – Mesh [Wool Turtle Neck [Black] @ Collabor88
Leggings – Maitreya – Panel Leggings V1 Light @ Collabor88
Boots – Mutresse – Sneja Boots with Switch Fabrics HUD @ FaMESHed

Scene:

The Trilby Dacha Mesh Prefab by Scarlet Creative @ Collabor88

Love Sign – Consignment December 2013 Group Gift
Manly Snowman & Snowlady by Cheaky Pea @ The Mens Dept.
Headwear Bright Light Sets by LODE @ The Chapter Four
Pose -Tracy Rubble/Nzuri – Sitting Pretty

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