On Flickr earlier I saw a post with a statement letting men and women alike know they were not in SL for a relationship or to talk about their real life… so basically stop trying to come on to them.  I guess someone might take the time to read through your profile and then go on their browser to get to your Flickr and scroll through all the pictures and hopefully come upon that post before instant messaging you.  Maybe.

In the four years that I’ve been in Second Life I have had my share of both sexes also come on to me.  I can’t say that’s been the case in the last year or so at least not in a reoccurring basis and perhaps it’s because I spend a majority of my time just attending shopping events and on my own land.

Though in the last week I’ve had at least two incidents that were not in the most pleasant manner.  The first was at a store on a moderate sim while I was waiting for the building and vendor to completely rez when I get a message “hi sexy slut,” which took me by surprise.  I choose to ignore it as opposed to enter into any type of chat with this man moron.  I ended up crashing and logged back in at home to find a new message with an invitation to join this person at some mature island.  To say the least not a compliment.

The second was at a shopping event and someone said hello.  I was not in the mood for idle conversation and so I choose not to respond, hoping if I didn’t reply the person would deem that I was not interested in chat and move on.  I know it takes courage for someone to reach out to you to just even to say hello and generally I am never rude to ignore anyone when they’re just being friendly.  I closed the box and continued to scan around the event location when another message pops up from the same person with a… “you have a nice chest.”  I literally rolled my eyes knowing full well that my assets were covered and closed the message box and went home.

In either of those situations I can’t imagine any woman responding to that in a positive way much less feeling they’ve been complimented.

So I hope that very public statement does the trick, because both parties failed to look at my profile pick where it says I’m not easily impressed and I’m not available.

On that note….

We need to teach our daughters to know the difference between: 
…a man who flatters her and a man who compliments her
…a man who spends money on her and a man who invests in her
…a man who views her as property and a man who views her properly
…a man who lusts after her and a man who loves her
…a man who believes he’s a gift to women, and a man who believes she’s a gift to him
And then we need to teach our sons to be that kind of man.
~unknown

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Hair – eXxEsS – Cosma
Romper – Blueberry – Beaded Romper Pixie

Sydney~
Hair – Love Soul – Hair*115* Jet Black
Jumper – {Toddleedoodle} – Dusty Coyote Jumper

Scene:
*AppleShad {with Apples Menu} – Little Branch @ Shiny Shabby
Grass Field Green – [we’re CLOSED]
Apple Crates – Vespertine
Crate of Apples – Eclyps 3D 
Bushel of Apples – Robin (Sojourner) Wood
3 Apple Crates – Floorplan
The Apple Basket – [noctis]
Bucket of Apples – Artilleri

Pose: Sharing is Caring – Something New @ Pose Fair

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