Lesson 43

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While I love the suggestion of the collage — this is something that I remember doing when I was in my twenties.   In my early forties I much prefer perusing Pinterest on my iPad while I am reclining in bed right before it’s time to switch the lights out and fall asleep.  I find it comforting to look at the nice pictures and pin those places that I envision one day visiting or a pair of stilettos that I really love.   I even pin those delicious and yummy looking recipes that I fool myself into believing I might one day try.

Personally, I think it’s another great tool for inspiration, motivation and the beautiful scenic pictures of far away places or even pictures of adorable toddlers can lift up your spirits instantly.  I also think it can serve as a tool to help clarify your vision and give you somewhat of a road map for goals and establish a vision of what you want to create in your life.

Good luck!

© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford

Lesson 43:  Envision Your Best Life

To live the best year of your life, you first have to identify what you want. You must create a vision. Having a vision will act as a reference point. It will provide a true “north” by which you can navigate your daily choices. Like a good map, having a vision clarifies the steps you need to take in order to arrive at your desired destination.

Once you’ve clarified your vision, you must keep a visual representation of it near you at all times to remind yourself of where you’re going and what you want to create. Then, before you’re about to take an action, you can decide whether the choice you’re about to make will lead you in the direction of your vision, or if it will take you off course.

Your Self-Love Assignment

Your self-love assignment this week is to create a Vision Map for one important area of your life. Here’s how it works:

Buy several of your favorite magazines and go through each of them, cutting out pictures and words that inspire, uplift, and motivate you. Try not to think too much as you make your selections; allow your unconscious to guide you to images and words that excite you.

Take a piece of cardboard or construction paper and put together a collage that’s a visual representation of what you want to create in this area of your life. Your Vision Map shouldn’t look busy or be like a visual to-do list. It should uplift and inspire you, not overwhelm or confuse you.

Hang your Vision Map someplace where you’ll see it daily. Refer to it to determine which choices, actions, and behaviors will move you closer to your best year, and which will not.

Self-Love Points Earned

Give yourself 100 points for creating your Vision Map, and 100 points every time you refer to it before making a choice.

Credits:

Hair – Truth – Perla in Black
Dress – Fame Monster – Gipsy Dress w/ Color HUD @ Designer Circle

Pose: JP-sit-f-01-kneelsit-filt by JPoses

Scene:

Pug – BioBreeds
Fossil Hunter – Maps & Notes – Consignment {Dec. 2013 Arcade}
Mesh Driftwood Bird Bath – Hanaya
Reed Flexi – Annastasia Scofield
Water Lily – Dornroeschen
Bridge Stone Scene – FelixvonKotwitz Alter

 

Lesson 39

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This is a lengthy one, but I believe relevant to each and everyone of us.  May you find it helpful.

© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford

Lesson 39:  Question Your Beliefs

The conclusions we form as a result of our life experiences become the beliefs we hold about ourselves, others, and the world. If we were the last person picked on the kickball team, if our high school crush didn’t return our affections, if we flunked math or didn’t have the fashion sense expressed by some of our peers, it’s likely that we picked up some limiting beliefs about ourselves that aren’t serving us, even to this day.

Here are some common examples of limiting beliefs: I’m not good enough. I don’t matter. There’s something wrong with me. I’m unwanted. I don’t belong. I’m unimportant. No one cares about me.

These hidden beliefs shape our thought processes and drive our personalities, telling us what we are and are not capable of. To move beyond them, we must first expose them, and then question their validity. This is your assignment this week.

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Your Self-Love Assignment

Look back upon the negative incidents that occurred during your childhood. Did your parents get divorced? Did you move and feel unwelcome in your new environment? Were you rejected by someone you wanted to have as your friend? Once you’ve made a list of the ten most upsetting events of your childhood, ask yourself the following questions about each one and begin to expose some of your core beliefs:

  1. What belief did I form as a result of this experience?
  2. How long have I held this belief?
  3. Does this belief serve me anymore?
  4. What belief could I replace it with that would better reflect who I am today?

Self-Love Points Earned

Give yourself 50 points for every limiting belief you expose and transform.

Credits:

Hair – Truth – Perla Black & Whites Pack
Top – The Secret Store – Lua’s Cropped Shirt Coffee
Pants – Somnia – Bebop Jeans w/ Color HUD @ Theme Park Event
Bracelets – Aisling – GAIA Hand Gold @ Fantasy Gacha Carnival
Shoes – Fri. – Brienne Flats Cocoa w/ Slink Female Feet (AvEnhance) Flat

Scene:

Trees by Mitsuko Kytori
Yews by 3D Trees
Swans by Thiery Fleury
Stone Wall by AA Build & Design
Bench by Exquisite Eye Decorations
Water Lily’s by Dornroeschen Creative
Bellis White Flowers by Garden of Dreams
Hammock by Kabuki
Sea Rocks with Waves by Antreas Alter