“We are all wonderful, beautiful wrecks.  That’s what connects us — that we’re all broken, all beautifully imperfect.” ~ Emilio Estevez

There was a time that I was a bit more of a perfectionist than I am today.  I would like to think that I now strive for excellence instead, which is by far much more motivating and gives me greater satisfaction inwardly. Trying to be perfect, in my opinion, is one of those impossible to attain standards that we often burden ourselves with.   Being the perfect woman, man, mom, father, brother, sister, co-worker, boss, blogger and countless other perfect ideals.  I certainly can recall times when I’ve compared myself with others in an effort to fit in, looking for some kind of validation so that I would feel perfectly alright with myself.   It never happened until I let go of those built up expectations that I created in my own mind.

I’m sure you’ve heard countless times the statement made, “…and I thought they lived the perfect life” and it is those individuals that are often seen as perfect and many try to emulate who end up being some of the most messed up people.  That’s because there are many people and yes, me included, of looking like we have everything together.  I don’t and they don’t either.

Perhaps if people stopped comparing themselves to others and instead were real and encouraged others by sharing themselves and the experiences they go through they would help lift up peoples spirits and really convey the message that they are perfect in being the imperfect human they are.  What a happier people we would be.

 I leave you with this… would there even be a second life if we were all perfect beings… living in a perfect real world?

© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford

Lesson 31:  Love Your Imperfections 

I‘m sure you’ve noticed by now that humans are imperfect. We make mistakes; we’re works in progress. And while most of us strive endlessly to make ourselves perfect, I’ve yet to meet a human being without flaws.

To the degree that we’re able to love and accept ourselves in spite of our imperfections, we’ll be able to extend this love and acceptance to others. And the more we love ourselves and others, the more easily we’ll manifest the things we desire most in life.

Self-acceptance is the most generous gift we can offer ourselves.

Your Self-Love Assignment

This week, make a list of all the things you’ve disliked, resisted, or judged the most about yourself.

As you read over your list, pause before each item and say to yourself, “I’m worthy of my own love and acceptance, even though I _________.” For example: “I’m worthy of my own love and acceptance even though I’m 25 pounds overweight”; “I’m worthy of my own love and acceptance even though I don’t have a job”; “I ‘m worthy of my own love and acceptance even though I feel lonely.”

Read your list each day, pausing after each statement to breathe in your words, then move to the next item on your list.

Self-Love Points Earned

Give yourself 50 points for every imperfection that you surround in love.

Credits:
Hair – Truth – Hair Dove in Black & Whites Hud
Hat – {HOWL} – Woody & Jessie Trapper Hat (Check Brown) @ Christmas Mini Market
Lipstick – Fiore – Latte Lips #003 in SPF30 – 40
Cardigan – BCC – Catty Cardigan & Thurs Paula Mustard
Glasses – VCO – Party Glasses <Rudolph None> @ Christmas Mini Market
Shorts – Erratic – Jessy Studded Shorts Brown
Boots – Similar – Trieste Knee Boot Length