Stand for what you believe in, no matter if you stand alone


Short on time today, but wanted to say a big THANK YOU to everyone for your continued support.  I made spotlight for Love to Decorate this week, which was sweet.  If you click on the image below, it will take you directly to the page and make sure you check out this wonderful magazine, a great resource for all home and garden decor that you can find around the grid.


Also, it’s rare these days for me to take a photo at a sim, as I usually create my own scenes, but I’ve been seeing all these wonderful photos of “It all starts with a smile,” so go check it out.  It’s beautifully decorated for this Fall season. There’s even a photo contest going on right now, so take some snapshots!

*Hair: Caramel by eXxEsS **New Release**
*Jean Shorts by #EMPIRE @ The Season’s Story 
*Arm Jewelry: Sanskriti by *PROMAGIC* @ Chapter Four
Silverstone Top Royal Blue for Maitreya Lara by Emery

Pose: Stand 1 by M i l a Poses

Location: It All Starts With A Smile

Welcoming the change in season


The Fall season is my favorite when it comes to weather as it’s always not so hot and muggy here in Florida and just about the right breeze.  Though, I don’t get the changing of the leaves as much here in my real world, in Second Life, it’s one of best seasons to take photos due to all the rich colors.  I’m in complete awe with some of the amazing photos people are creating that I see come across my Flickr stream.  It definitely inspires me to want to go out and explore.  I welcome any mention of sims that are worth visiting.

Today I am showcasing a couple of items that I am wearing.  The first is a recent new hair release by enVOGUE.  The Milly is rigged mesh and is an avant-garde hairstyle that has a classic bun style and pulled to the front in a braided tail.  It’s modern and quite chic.  This hairstyle is available in 96 colors, root colors and 16 ombre, which are easily accessible through a HUD.  It’s available at the main store.

The next item featured today is the Miu shoes by N-Core, which are mesh body compatible {Xtreme Feet, Maitreya, The Mesh Project, Belleza and Slink}.  Perfect ankle boots for this season that’s for sure to bring some cool day and nights ahead. There are 14 options available that can be purchased individually or as a fatpack. Currently available at Kustom9 until October 10th, then afterwards you can find them at the main store.

Hope you have a great start to an awesome weekend!

*Hair: Milly {Diversity Pack} by enVOGUE ***New***
*Shoes: MUI by N-core @ Kustom9
Dress: Cullen Chamois Mili for Maitreya by Emery @ Collabor88

Downtown Cottage {Green Interior} by ionic for The Forest Event -September ’16
Charlie Sofa by LISP
Storage Trunk [Kilin] by Pilot
New England.v2 {4 Seasons} by Little Branch
Flying leaves (Orange) by Kalopsia

Pose: Mary by Bauhaus Movement

Walking away from those things that no longer serve me


The words seem to be stuck in my head this morning as I get to writing this post.  I had one of those nights where I slept like a log, but then woke up with a dream playing in my head and so I feel a little sluggish still even if half my day is almost gone.  I have racing thoughts going on of what I need to accomplish later today in between the two appointments I have this afternoon The list being checked off and yet you have this thought niggling in the back of your mind that you’re forgetting something.  In my case nothing new. I am quite forgetful already as it is.

Anyway, it’s Friday and hope some of you are off to a good start for the weekend ahead. Today I am showing another prop by Industry 7, the City Wall Set that is part of their Urban Studio gacha at The Epiphany.  I’m only showing a partial view of the wall, plus I put together two side by side for this scene.  The other item is trashcan prop with the catchy saying.

The other item that I am featuring today are the Triteleia heels by Empire. These over the knee lace up heels are just the kind of shoes a girl needs for a Friday night. Empire makes some of the hottest shoes in-world and if you like these then join the VIP Group for a minimal cost of only $499L to stay up to date on new releases and get some amazing group gifts like I’m wearing.  These are made to fit several bodies, the Freya, Hourglass, Isis, Physique, Venus and Maitreya, which I am using.  It includes a hud with 2o colors to choose from, so it’s really a great bargain.  I look forward to showing some more fabulous shoes from this creator in the near future.

*Shoes:  Triteleia by Empire {VIP Group Gift}
Hair: Stay the Night by Magika
Tattoo: Cash by .Reckless. 
Silverstone Top Tuly by Emery @ Collabor88
Marisa Doble Lace Short by Addams @ Collabor88

*Urban Studio_City Wall Set by Industry 7 @ The Epiphany
*Urban Studio_Trashcan Prop by Industry 7 @ The Epiphany
Neon Legs by Seven Emporium

Pose: Ottoman by oOo Studio {Ottoman made transparent to use pose}

The gamers life

Games 038

It’s blistering hot outside today.  It sucks the life out of you if you’re in that oppressive humid heat for very long or it does me.  I’ll say thank goodness for air conditioning.

Today I’m showing a few items from a couple of creators.  This gaming hole set is by Jian and it’s available starting today at the Festival of Sin Event that runs until September 15th.  The set includes the tv console, chairs, pizza boxes, the gaming systems and light, table and chips.   The wood texture is changeable by menu and the chairs have lots of fun poses, like this one I’m using sitting on my stomach.  All that munching on junk food wore me out.

Next, is (Epia), who is participating in this round of Men Only Monthly with several new items for men.   The gentlemen shoes you see on the floor, comes with a color change menu giving you eight colors to choose from.  The fur hat with flaps also has color change options for both the main hat and side fur.  The men are being spoiled with so much color options to choose from as the panel cap comes with even more color and design options. The Men Only Monthly runs until September 15th.

Hope you all enjoy the rest of your Saturday!

Hair – [Entwined] – Anna {past Shiny Shabby Opening Gift}
Bees Antenna Headband {past event gift}
Top – Emery – Galadriel Top Grey
Shorts – Blueberry – Cuffed Denim Shorts Black
Shoes – Fri. – Effy Sandals

*Games Hole Set – Jian @ Festival of Sin {August 22 thru Sept. 15th}
{Light, Table, Chair, TV Console, Pizza & Pizza Boxes, Game Systems, Chips}
*Fur Hat – (epia) @ Men Only Monthly
*Gentlemen Shoes – (epia) @ Men Only Monthly
*Five Panel Cap – (epia) @ Men Only Monthly
Tree Top Ground Version – Scarlet Creative @ Collabor88
Mesh Blinds Wide Long-Teak – Lisp
Hanging Bulb-Triple – Seven Emporium
Square Frame Wall Leaners – Sever Emporium
Rocket Chair [Flames] – 22769~[bauwerk]
Philby Record Player – Seven Emporium
Bowl of chips – Depoz Party Supplies
Assorted Candy {old items from past event}
Bottle of Verona Beer – (epia) {past arcade item}

*Review copy


Your flaws are perfect for the heart that is meant to love you.

“Between our laughs, long talks, stupid fights and jokes… I fell in love.”

Best GF 017

I don’t know about the rest of you, but this week so far has been down and out crazy. I feel pulled in every direction and the frustration level that I see in others and myself too is at an all-time high. It feels like all I’ve done since Monday is put out fires, and today I have a headache that won’t quit.  It’s no wonder we escape sometimes, even if our realities remain.

By now I’m sure you’ve seen these star of fame wall frames with different awards such as best friend, wife, hag, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, designer and a whole list of others found at the arcade. They are very cute frames and can create that fun atmosphere as they’re meant to, when proudly displayed or given as gifts to that person you’re honoring with that title of being the best of something.

I’m proudly showing off my fame as best girlfriend, and even though I gave it to myself it doesn’t lessen its impact. Darn right.  I earned this title; just ask my ex (spoken tongue-in-cheek).

Funny note aside I had a bit of a revelation the other week when I was watching the movie Jerry Maguire that aired in 1996. Jerry is played by actor Tom Cruise, which is about a sports agent that gets fired and then starts his own management firm with a sole client, Rod Tidwell, played by actor Cuba Gooding, Jr. There is a particular scene where a frustrated Jerry is telling Rod, who has a bit of an attitude, that he needs to go back to being the guy who first started playing the game, like when he was kid. The conversation doesn’t go well and an irritated Jerry leaves and as Rod watches him go he yells at him, “See, man, that’s the difference between us. You think we’re fighting, I think we’re finally talking!”

That particular scene was a bit of an eye opener as I thought back on previous encounters and made me reflect that I’m more like a Jerry and how this might have contributed to communication breakdowns.  It’s given me something to ponder on as I think of how quickly I can shut down when overwhelmed with high emotions.

My goodness.  Maybe I should send my ex the best boyfriend award.

Hair – Taketomi – Toyo Dark Brown
Eyelids – Slink – Mesh Eyelids
Necklace – Yummy – Raindrop Chain Necklace Gold
Bracelet – ASO! – National Flag Bracelet (Italia)
Top – Emery – Donna V-Neck Sweater Grey @ Collabor88
Jeans – Pixicat – Kiara Jeans {past 50L Friday}
Shoes – Baiastice – London Sneakers Canvas Sky @ The Arcade

Star of Fame/Best Girlfriend – [Commoner] @ The Arcade
Second Aid Donuts Yellow – BAMSE
Strandmon Couch Brown – Apt. B
Palmer Lodge – Trompe Loeil @ Collabor88


Buttercup 008

The following is quite long though something a very good friend of mine sent me.   It’s quite ironic that it was within a day of winning this cute giraffe called buttercup at the Creepy Kawaii Fair, which ends today.

Men Love Iron Buttercups

Long before the days of Steel Magnolias, there were Iron Buttercups.  An Iron Buttercup is a woman most often associated with the South, but she does not have to be from the South or have even stepped foot in the South. Nor does she need an accent! She is self possessed, possesses self confidence, and always responds/acts like a lady in public. She understands loyalty, and is willing to give everyone a chance unless they prove her otherwise wrong.  She is generally attractive.  She may not be movie star drop dead gorgeous, but has learned to make the most of what she has. This is a lady with her own mind.  She may or may not always speak it, but make no mistake, this woman is no pushover and everyone knows it.  Men like her because she sets boundaries from the beginning, and an Iron Buttercup knows men don’t go for doormats. (Neither does she)  When a man captures an Iron Buttercups heart, he knows he has something valuable. Such a woman is a challenge, making it all the more appealing to him.

While Iron Buttercups are often found in the South they can live anywhere, and they can be from anywhere.  They’re found throughout all walks of life/social stratas and in all cultures.  Long ago, they were originally born and bred in the South which is why so many of them remain today.

Iron Buttercups are seldom found in abusive relationships or for that matter bad relationships with men, at least for very long.  An Iron Buttercup may be divorced, separated, or she may have at one time been in a relationship with a man who was an alcoholic, cheat or abuser, but that’s the past, and she will not repeat history a second time. An IB can be a bitch, but only if deserved. A woman can become an Iron Buttercup at any point in her life.

Here are the Top 11 relationship tips from the Iron Buttercup Guide to Happiness with Men which has been handed down to women for generations.

  1. Never chase a man-Men are the natural born hunters so the chase comes naturally to them. To chase a man defies the laws of Buttercup nature. An Iron Buttercup knows the only relationships worth pursuing are with men who are interested in her.(This does not mean a woman can never take the lead) A wise old Iron Buttercup said, “Men are hunters, women are gatherers: let the man hunt you!! Gather the benefits”.
  2. Never call, text, Facebook, or email a man incessantly.  One text perhaps, one call until he returns communication. And only if you have reason to believe he is interested in you. Preferably, he contacts you. Many Iron Buttercups NEVER call a man unless returning a call.
  3. If he doesn’t return the communication back off. Don’t continue to try and communicate with a man who is clearly not interested. If he is interested, he will call back, even if there is a delay. Remember this most of all.
  4. If you have been dating someone who suddenly disappears, shows a lack of interest or starts dating someone else, back off.  Hold your head high, stifle the instinct to cry and go into an emotional spin and get on with your life instead! The next and better man is just around the corner! This is your mantra, use it generously. And Never, never, never, put your life on hold to wait for a man to come back around!
  5. Drop him like a hot potato if he abuses alcohol or drugs on a regular basis-it will only get worse.  If he abuses you physically or emotionally, mistreats you, is a sex addict, makes fun of you, or treats you in a condescending manner. If he lies to you, wants money, or you find him active on a dating site after establishing an intimate relationship, drop him. Look up the words narcissist, addiction, and psychotic and understand what they mean.
  6. Drop him like a hot potato if he mistreats your children, parents, family or pets.
  7. Every man you meet is not your soul mate. Every man you are interested in will not become your husband/boyfriend.  You have to kiss a lot of frogs to meet a prince.  Meeting your next husband or soul mate is not an everyday occurrence, and not every relationship will work out. Learn the art of moving on gracefully instead of holding on. No one said it was easy, but it is necessary if you want to find the right man and insure your own happiness.
  8. Never give up your own interests. Don’t put your life/interests on hold for a man.  Don’t give up your interests in the pursuit of him/his interests.  An Iron Buttercup knows a woman with her own interests is an attractive one who has something to talk about.
  9. If you choose to date a married or otherwise committed man, understand you roll the dice, you take your chances.  This is a risky situation at best, likely to end in a train wreck. If it does not work out move on, and do not be bitter.  Understand that married men seeking other women often lie or change their minds. Naiveté is not attractive if you are over 25. Some men lie-frequently.
  10. You are not in a committed relationship unless you have a ring on your finger, or made and received a verbal commitment as such and both parties agree. If you are not committed, you are free, and so is he. No IB lives as a committed woman, if she is not. In other words, if you are not committed don’t tie yourself down to a man who doesn’t want commitment. If you are committed and he is not, you are not committed.
  11. The Golden Buttercup Rule-You must love yourself first. You must protect yourself and not put yourself in bad situations. If you are in a bad situation that causes unhappiness, get out of it now! Never wait for him to ‘change.’

Skin – *YS&YS* – Sabrina Shy @ The Dressing Room Fusion
Hair – Truth – Avena in Blacks
Top – Emery – Selina Top Grey @ Collabor88
Shorts – Blueberry – Cossy Denim Ripped Shorts Faded Light @ Uber
Flo’s Watermelleh Donut – Flowey {previous Atelier Kreslo event item}

Donuts Sign – Seven Emporium @ for The Neighborhood
Grass – Fanatik Architecture {Group Gift}
Garden Tree 06 – Happy Mood
Goblin: Green – *alirium*
Medusa: Dawn – *alirium*
Giraffe – +Half-Deer+ – Tiny Teacup Giraffe Buttercup @ Creepy Kawaii Fair

Pose: Sitting Pose 9 by KMA Poses

[ARIA] @ The Mens Department

Aria at TMD

The newest round of The Mens Department begins later today and [ARIA] has an upholstered bench set that you can get in either PG or adult version with optional pillow pile and a vase with poppies. The bench has single and couples animations by menu and with auto-attach props.  As always you will have a selection of texture options for the leather, pillows and vase.  Only during the event will you be able to grab this set at a special and heavily discounted price.

Skin – Lumae – Beth Caramel
Lashes – Redgrave – 31 Extralong
Teeth – [PXL] – Mouth_open_Addon v7.1
Hair – Dura – Girl*59
Top – Emery – Galadriel Top Grey
Jeans – Maitreya – Boyfriend Jeans Dark
Hands & Feet – SLink – Avatar Enhancement Hands & Feet

*Raleigh Upholstered bench Set – [ARIA] @ The Mens Department
Iona Conservatory – Trompe Loeil
Vintage Eye Chart – Hideki @ The Chapter Four
Trois Pillows – llorisen
Taylor Rug Greige – The Loft
Tripod Lamp – Junk
Balance Scales – Junk
Basset Hound – Mesh Mafia

*Review copy.

Pumpkin Patch

“Things fall apart so better things can fall together.” ~ Marilyn Monroe “

Pumpkin Patch

The last few weeks have been a little up and down for me and a large part is my own fault for allowing circumstances beyond my control to negatively get the better of me.  Though over the weekend I had a bit of an epiphany and accepted the circumstances in the best way possible by making a choice to let nature take its own course.   My seventy plus year old grandmother often reminds me that sometimes you have to let one door close to allow another to open.  Since she’s still kicking up a storm I guess she knows what she’s saying.

Feeling a bit of the tension now leaving me I found myself wanting to bring out little me, because she makes me laugh at myself.  I picked up these pumpkins during a 25L Tuesday, which I might add this list is mostly role-play items.  I have always loved the idea of a pumpkin patch and unfortunately here in my part of the world you only find them in the yard of a few churches who decide to sell pumpkins to raise funds.  Just not the same thing and it’s a good thing I’m in Second Life, because I’m definitely not wearing mommy clothes for such a place.


Alexa ~
Hair – Truth – Shae in Blacks & Whites
Top – Emery – Crop Top Feroe Black
Shorts – [JuSt CoOl] – Haven Hot Shorts Dark Denim @ FaMESHed
Boots – Just Design – Penny Red @ FaMESHed

Sydney ~
Hair – Love Soul – Hair *115* Jet Black
Outfit – Baby Pie – Juno {part of Limited 50 – no longer available}

Pose: A Pumpkin for YOU by Tiny Gems @ Kids Lazy Sunday  {modified by Animare HUD}

Mesh Pumpkin Patches & Vines Set – Roawenwood {previous 25L Tuesday}

Location: Friends private home.



I’m keeping it simple today and just wanting to show this exclusive original mesh necklace that Bokeh has available at the Jewelry Fair.   The necklace comes in three lengths with black or a precious metal rim options that you can change via menu.  Even though it feels a little odd wearing a sweater when its still super hot in my real world, this fluffy sweater feels just right.
Skin – *YS & YS* Joy Skin EyeCat @ The Dressing Room Fusion
Eyes – {SONG} – Anim//Silver Eye @ Kustom9
*Necklace – Bokeh – Enchanted Medallion @ The Jewelry Fair 
Top – Emery – Doom Pullover Petrol @ Uber

Weekender Bench Neutral – Cheeky Pea
Apsen Trees & Saplings – Botanical
Nanohana – *alirium*

The brightest of days


It’s always amazing that when you think you’re having a crappy day you read or hear something that makes you stop in your tracks and think — and I thought my day was bad.  Perhaps not.  Though likely it’s the truth that somewhere out there in this vast universe of ours someone is going through something far worse.  Now doesn’t that make you feel better?  No, it doesn’t work for me either, though it does help me gain a better perspective that attitude really has much to do with our temperamental makeup throughout life.

Plus there is some truth in that proverbial phrase that when life gives you lemons make lemonade. Now that’s a positive attitude.  On this warm day a glass of cold lemonade would do wonders.  I always strive for somewhere in the middle when my day isn’t always hunky dory.  Things will change. As Vivien Leigh of Gone with the Wind said, “After all tomorrow is another day“.

Today I did a little exploring of this sim called Second Norway.  The perfect setting to go casual in shorts and a sleeveless top to enjoy the weekend.


Top – Emery – Sleeveless Shirt Destiny Eau @ My Attic
Shorts – Baiastice – Kasia Shorts Black
Hair – Truth – Elisha in Night
Location:  Second Norway – Ymer Harbor and Lighthouse Marina