I may be redundant when I say the following.  It just feels like I’ve spoken this before or maybe I just thought these things and never wrote on them.

Normally, I talk about real life events when I do these lessons.  I primarily started doing the lessons for personal growth.  Since I am and interact the same in both worlds, obviously with a bit more care and on occasion maybe daring to do things I wouldn’t even consider in real life, Second Life would be part of that growth.  Though not doing much or interacting with that many people these days in-world it does limit my ability to utilize examples that could pertain to these lessons.

Today’s lesson brings to mind something that I have observed when it comes to liking or disliking things on Flickr or on blogs.  Being a blogger who likes to take pictures it’s only natural that I would like to shop.   One of the ways I have stayed in touch with what is newly released is by perusing blogs and Flickr.  Since I am talking about Flickr I will take time to mention that I don’t make it a practice to favorite too many fashion pictures as there are far too many that I like that it would clog my favorites.  Generally, I stick to liking landscapes, furniture pictures because it helps me remember things I own as well and recently I started to favorite pictures of things I want to go look for once released.   Mainly, I like favoring pictures that tell a story.   You’ve heard that statement that a picture is worth a thousand words.   For a great example, I recently liked several photos of Harvey Crabsticks as they were a sequence and telling a story.  I love that sort of thing.

To my observation.  I have noticed that many people will like a picture of yours just because you liked one of theirs.  I simply don’t understand that.   I rather you like my picture because you really do like it, other than liking it because I happened to like one of yours.   I do believe that sometimes we will go and look at someone’s work when we note they liked one of ours.  I have done this, and will like something I might have not seen.  Flickr pictures are being uploaded continuously by members you follow that there is bound to be pictures that you will miss.  That being said I still see this soft token of “people-pleasing” in observance.  The same thing applies to blogs.

In short. It’s not a big deal.  Like to your hearts content.  Just an observation.

The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford

Lesson 36:  Please Yourself

People-pleasing is one of the great epidemics of our times. I know so many people who can’t seem to find the time or energy to nurture their own dreams or bring their goals to fruition. Could it be that people-pleasing is the silent culprit behind their exhaustion and over committed schedules?

Many of us learned early on that pleasing others is a good way to receive validation or affection. And now it’s become a habit that we perpetuate even though it doesn’t serve us or our visions. This week, take your focus off of pleasing others, and instead look for ways to please yourself.

Your Self-Love Assignment

Reflect on one area of your life where you feel resentful, powerless, or resigned. Allow yourself to see how many of your actions in this part of your life are driven by your need to please others. What lengths do you go to in an attempt to get others to like you? Do you pretend to be the “nice” guy or girl? Do you conceal some of your brilliance or hide some of your power so that you won’t intimidate others?

Next, ask yourself if your quest to be liked and please others has actually paid off. Is it bringing you what you want?

Allow yourself to see what would be available to you if your first commitment were to please yourself. How would that affect your sense of worthiness, joy, and self-love?

Finally, identify three actions you could take this week that would be pleasing to you … and take them.

Self-Love Points Earned

Give yourself 50 points for every action you take (or don’t take) that pleases you!

Credits:

Eyes – Ikon – Perspective Eyes Midnight
Hair – CaTwA – Sandy V2 Hair
Dress – Color.Me.H.O.F. – Mesh [Victoria Dress[Plum] @ Collabor88
Earrings – Lazuri – Silver & Black Onyx Earrings
Ring – RYCA – Rig Gold/onyx
Shoes – !SSD – Mata Hari Jeweled Stilettos {must be worn with Slink AvEnhance Female High Feet}
Feet – Slink – AvEnhance Female High Feet
Pose: Seduction Poses by Di’s Opera

Scene:

Tampa House – InVerse
Grand Piano Mesh -Michigan Shack
Salvadore Sculpture – Aria
CB Potted Plant (pink marble) – Tygra Lefavre/Casa Bella (came with CB Luxury Skybox)
Curtains – HEAVILY EDITED from pieces of Fanatik Curtains & Sanctuaire Curtains
CB Floral Creme Rug & CB Rizzy Rug Sculpted – Tygra Lefavre/Casa Bella (came with CB Luxury Skybox)
Sakura Tree – Nadine Reverie/3D Trees
Yellow Forest Daisy Flowers – Bunnie Badger/Two Moon Gardens
Yews & Garden Hedges – Nadine Reverie/3D Trees
Stone Wall & Gate – AA Build & Design
Japanese Tori Gate – Botanical
MK-BT Bo Maple Tree – Mitsuko Kytori {just visible in background}